Most people will admit that that one of the few things that’s constant in life is change. We all have to cope with changes as we go through life. Some of those changes are changes we have no control over but other changes are changes that we do have the option of exerting some control over.
Thom McFadden, in his recently released book, “Acting For Real””, explains how we can understand change in a unique, highly practical way. Thom is uniquely qualified to tackle a topic like this because in his years as an actor, acting coach, motivational speaker, life coach and executive coach, he has talked with thousands of people about ‘change’, how it effects their life and how they cope with it. Furthermore, through his pro-active coaching and mentoring, Thom has helped literally thousands of actors, executives, salespeople and citizens from all walks of life to be more in control of the force of change.
Thom’s unique perspective comes primarily from his years of acting and coaching of actors. Early in his career as an actor Thom realized that actors mimic life and that the ability that good actors have to mimic different roles in life could be reverse engineered by individuals in real life situations to better bring about the results they want.
As Thom explains in his book, there’s a direct connection between results, actions, attitudes and what we learn or focus our mind on. The results we get in life are directly related to what’s in our mind….i.e. what we’ve learned and the influences we’ve allowed to influence us in our journey through life. Unfortunately, most of those influences are not as positive as they should be and do not encourage us to be all that we can or would like to be.
In his book, Thom illustrates that every possible outcome has a corresponding presumed action that would have caused it. In acting, actors learn how to mimic those actions in order to convince audiences that they are, in fact, those characters.
Thom, in many years of successful coaching, has discovered that people can better determine desired and appropriate outcomes for themselves if they become more in control of the roles they need to play in particular situations. Those actions, just as an actor mimics the actions of a lover or a great leader or an artist or a warrior, can be consciously chosen….with a greater likelihood of a particular result. That’s what “Acting For Real” is all about.
Each situation a person is in has a corresponding preferred type of behavior that matches it. Each of those behaviors, in Acting For Real, is called a ‘role’. By carefully diagnosing the roles that go with certain results, Thom explains how people can better gain control of their business life, their romantic life, their social life, their family life, their creative life….in fact virtually every aspect of their life.
Since much of life and the way we interact with others is determined by how people communicate, it’s important to first start with a better understanding of that subject. Thom’s book explains in great details what he calls The Creative Triangle.
In The Creative Triangle, Thom shows how there are three basic ways that people communicate and process information. Those three ways are (1) Visual, (2) Auditory and (3) Kinesthetic.
People who are Visual learners and communicators learn by seeing and in fact even their language is permeated by visually oriented words….words like, “I see”, “it appears”, “it seems”, etc. Someone wanting to effect their behavior had better use visually keyed words or otherwise they won’t be successful
In a similar manner, Auditory oriented people learn best and quickest by hearing. Their language is full of ‘aurally’ oriented words. Words like, “Do you hear?”, “Does that sound right?, “I hear you!”, “Does that sound OK?”, etc. One must use the right words to communicate effectively with this type of person because using the wrong types of words will get you nowhere.
Similarly, Kinesthetically oriented people are very much ‘touchy-feely’. Their language is full of emotionally charged words, their physical presence is usually very animated, they also tend to be people of action and, conversely, sometimes they’re not as verbally oriented as the Auditory or Visual types. But again, use the right language to communicate with these people or you get nowhere.
In life, dealing with yourself or with others, it’s important to know what type of learner/communicator/person you are because that’s the key to controlling your own attitudes and habits, unlocking your own, true personality to reveal yourself to others and also to be more effective communicating with others.
In his book, Thom shows that no matter what role a person is playing, whether it is in business or personal life, being in control of your ‘performance’ is of paramount importance. Understanding how to learn and communicate is fundamental to the process.