Surviving the Thanksgiving Table

Thanksgiving is the time of year when we can sit back, stuff ourselves full of food, and reflect on how good we have it. Yes, no matter what you have gone through in 2014, there is always something to be thankful for. It could be your health, the fact that you have a job (even if you’re looking for a better one), or just the fact that you don’t have to see your nagging family members for the rest of the year.

“No, I’m not married yet.”

“Yes, I’m still unemployed.”

“Yes, I know my biological clock is ticking. It’s all I hear when I try to sleep at night.”

If you’re like me, you’re excited to see your family during the holidays. Despite the inevitable “What is it that you do again?” (this is – hands down – the number one question I get every time my family comes together), I still enjoy seeing my extended family and spending time with them.

And I have a big family…

How big? My parents had a grand total of 19 brothers and sisters. I haven’t met all of my cousins. This is probably why my mom and dad stopped at two kids. Either way, this usually makes for big family reunions around the holidays. I like to consider myself well-versed in the art of “surviving the Thanksgiving table.” If you are frightened of what your family may throw at you tomorrow, here are my top three recommendations:

#1) Don’t Look Your Drunk Uncle in the Eye

If we don't move, it won't see us...

If we don’t move, it won’t see us…

Generally speaking, most families have that one black sheep of the family. It might be the drunk uncle. It might be that weird cousin that likes to lick windows. It might be the aunt with the fifty-two cats. No matter who they are, they are often like a magnet for drama.

In general, I like to avoid the drama during the holidays. I may not always be successful but I do try my best. However, if you do get caught up in some kind of drama, don’t let it ruin your day. Did your drunk uncle spill his beer on your shoes? Just help him sit back down on the couch and wipe off your shoes. Then maybe offer him a cup of coffee.

We may not be able to choose our family but we can choose how we treat them. We can also try our darnedest to love them with every ounce of our being.

#2) Grandma Knows All

"Come here! Let me pinch those cheeks!"

“Come here! Let me pinch those cheeks!”

The one thing that I regret (and to emphasize this fact, I want to make sure you know that I hate having to use the word “regret”) is not spending time with my grandparents when they were around. I missed the change to really know either of my grandfathers and I lost both of my grandmothers when I was still in grade school.

That being said, I don’t want you to make the same mistake. If you can spend time with your grandparents this year, don’t take it for granted. Grandparents have a wealth of knowledge and all they ever want to do is love you and they have so much to share with you.

So suck it up and wear the ugly, itchy, Christmas sweaters to make them happy because seeing a smile on their faces will totally make it worth it. In addition, make sure to give them an extra hug – from me.

#3) Mom’s Food Will Always Be the Best



This is the rule in everyone’s house. Mom’s food is always the best. My parents are Filipino so my mom’s cooking is no exception to this rule. She makes the best lumpia and there is always a platter of it next to the turkey every year.

You know what else is next to the turkey? My pinecone turkey that I made for her when I was in elementary school. Yup, I love my mom.

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About the Author

Thom McFadden, known as Hollywood’s “Coach to the Stars”, has been helping actors, writers, producers, directors and hundreds of other entertainment industry professionals to achieve new levels of success for over twenty years through his personal coaching and life-changing seminars and courses. Thom has been featured in 26 mainstream movies and over 100 television shows over his illustrious career.