Do you recognize “charisma” when you see it?
That’s not really a trick question because charisma actually operates more on a sub-conscious level than on a conscious level. Some people have a certain amount of it naturally but for most people it’s actually something they develop over time…often as a consequence of some other activity. But let’s be sure we’re defining it correctly.
When I say ‘charisma’…I’m just referring to that quality of personality that makes people naturally like you. Sometimes it’s a quality that begins to work right away in an encounter and at other times it’s something that takes a little while to have an effect. But there’s no doubt that some people just do seem to have it while other people obviously don’t.
Can you remember some opening scenes from movies that starred one of your favorite actors? Maybe it was Robert Redford, maybe it was Tom Cruze or maybe it was Julia Roberts?
Fact is that we all can’t help but be effected by first impressions. And probably the biggest single factor contributing to first impression is body language. Point is….charisma is a big deal and people that have it AND know how to use have a big advantage in all aspects of life.
In Hollywood we know the importance of first impressions, body language and charisma. In fact much of the training we take and give is about just those things. The ‘take away’ for non-Hollywood types is that charisma is a skill that can be learned and that’s exactly what I teach in my personal coaching, seminars, and eBooks such as “Personality, Personality, Personality”, “Acting For Real” and “Dating For Real“.
Charisma is valuable because it strongly influences the people you come in contact with. If you’re applying for a job and you can get the interviewer to ‘like you’…you’ve got a much better chance of getting that job than somebody with
more skill than you have but not as much charisma. The interviewer will often pick you over the other person and justify it logically some other way.
If you want to see one very topical and recent example of where charisma, body language and style were very important just look at the recent two Presidential and Vice-Presidential debates. Most of the discussion and critique afterwards revolved not so much around the substance of what the candidates said but rather their charisma (or lack of it).
I’ve written two eBooks which, if I do say so myself, are very good on the subject. These books aren’t based on academic theory either. They’re the ‘real deal’…real techniques that I used for a long and successful acting career in Hollywood and that I still get paid good money to teach highly placed executives and business owners. Point is…they work in the real world.
I’m firmly convinced that so much of what we accomplish today comes down to this area of charisma and personal communication. People live so much in the ‘fast lane’ today that it’s just difficult to get their attention. You can’t do it with technology and facts alone. To be more in control of interpersonal relationships, you’ve got to be able to trigger sub-conscious emotions. Understanding how to create and control charisma is the way to do it.
For a very practical examination and discussion of how charisma works in real life, I want to invite you to take a look at my two ebooks, “Dating For Real…For Women” and “Personality, Personality, Personality” over on Smashwords.
Meanwhile, don’t miss the next debate coming up soon. I predict you’ll see big differences in both candidates. It’ll be fun to see. Let me know what you see, will you?
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Well, until next time! B BOP!