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3 Steps to Defining Your Career Path

Heaven Hi and Happy Friday!

Today I wanted to chat with you about your career path. What career path are you on? Most of us have jobs but do you consider those jobs to be your career? What would you think if you were to spend the rest of your life working there? Would you be happy? Content? Ecstatic? Unhappy? Disappointed?

Do you often talk to your manager or boss about what your career path is in your place of employment? How often does that happen?

Statistics show that most people want to chat with their managers about their career once a year or quarterly. However, these same statistics show that nearly half of the employees polled don’t actually discuss their career path with their employers at all. The other half do so annually – during progress meetings and evaluations.

Yes, it is Friday. Yes, we’re all ready to celebrate the weekend. However, that doesn’t mean that you should completely drop your professional development. My suggestion?

Spend a couple of hours on Sunday, trying to better yourself by reflection, planning, and taking the initiative.

REFLECTION: Reflect on your past week. What went well? What didn’t go well? How can you improve upon that? Now reflect on what you want in the future. Create goals (professional and personal), if you haven’t done so already.

PLANNING: Now that you’ve made your long term goals, create short term goals that will lead you down the right path. What is your five year plan? Now divide that into five, shorter, one-year plans. Got that? Great! Now look at the next year. What is your short term goal for the six month mark? What about next month? Keeping these goals will help you keep your future in perspective.

In addition to this, I would also try to plan out your workweek. Make a to-do list to make sure that you plan out your time well. Look at the projects that you need to complete and projects that you want to complete. What planning tool do you use? Is there a different tool that you can utilize? Old school hard-copy planners? Online calendar and task list that can sync to your various devices?

TAKING THE INITIATIVE: Request a meeting with your boss to talk about your professional goals for your career. How can you move up? What can you do to meet and surpass standards? Are you unhappy at your current job? Maybe your version of “taking the initiative” should be to look for another job in the field that you wish to follow for the rest of your life. What is your passion? What do you want to do in the future? How do you want to make your mark in this world?

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Well, until next time! B BOP!

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3 Habits To Help You Succeed in LIFE

Heaven High and Happy Wednesday!

We do a lot of things that help ensure our success. I try to stay healthy by going to the gym every day and eating right. This helps me feel better physically and mentally, which improves my chances at succeeding in my everyday endeavors and my professional work.

Not everyone has habits that might seem sane to everyone. There are plenty of geniuses and successful people who have strands of eccentricity running through their DNA. However, some of their quirky habits have some scientific basis behind them while others might just have psychological benefits. Check them out and give them a try. Who knows what may work for you.

#1) Surround Yourself With Gold

It is said that gold can block out radio and television signals. There is a smog of signals that runs through our lives every day. We are bombarded with electrical waves all the time from our television screens, computers, tablets, and smartphones – at a minimum. Dr. Yoshiko Nakamatsu has a calm room that is tiled in 24-karat gold.

While you don’t necessarily need a space that is crawling in gold, you do need a calm space so that you can let your mind detox and relax. This will improve your mental performance since you’ll be able to let your mind categorize and store all of the information that it soaked in during the day.

#2) Detox

It is important to let your mind and your body detox from your hectic life. Just like it is imperative to let your mind recharge and categorize information, it is also important to let your body detox. You can do this for your body by fasting from different foods and doing different types of fasting. There is intermittent fasting (which is like alternate day fasting) and calorie restriction (consuming around 35 percent fewer calories than a normal day).

#3) Don’t Be Afraid To Daydream

Daydreaming used to get us in trouble. When we were in elementary school, if we got caught daydreaming, it usually meant that we would be put on the spot in front of class or we might have even got detention – to help us focus. However, there are good reasons to daydream when it is important.

Daydreaming lets your thoughts marinate so that you can think about your passions and ideas. When you let your unconscious mind wander, you come up with bigger and better ideas that are more innovative and closer to your heart.

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less. Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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Improve Your Chances of Success By Monday!

Heaven Hi!

How are you on this fine Friday morning? Today I wanted to talk about something that is important for any person who wants to be in any type of leadership position, whether it’s for your job or a part of your personal life. Today I wanted to talk about something that you can think about over the weekend. Consider the topic points and see what you can incorporate on Monday morning.

It takes a lot to be a good leader these days. It doesn’t happen overnight but leadership skills can be learned and improved through hard work and experience. Here are some helpful tips.

#1) Be an Example

Do you want a specific behavior from your team? The best way to get that behavior from them is to do it yourself. Show people how you want them to act during good and bad times. Being a role model in your office or work setting will help to guide your team in the direction that you want.

#2) Be Passionate

When you are passionate about your work, that passion gets passed down from person to person. It is contagious, like a happiness virus. Don’t be afraid to show off how you feel about your work: proud, happy, excited, etc. It’s not all about being professional and cold all of the time. You can also be professional and passionate about your work.

#3) Meet New People

Making new connections and building relationships is important for a leader because the more connections you build, the better your network will be. This will also allow you to open yourself up to new experiences and new viewpoints.

#4) Do Good Deeds

Volunteering and doing good deeds for your team will help you build a good work relationship. Volunteering for good deeds (for an organization or a cause that your company feels passionate about) can help you feel like a family.

#5) Don’t Be Afraid to Transform and Always Be Learning

Improve on everything. Work on making yourself, your techniques, and your approaches better. Make sure you know when your approach can be improved. That doesn’t mean that you should throw in the towel though. Stay persistent. Change your processes and improve. Move forward. Read anything that you can get your hands on. Take classes whenever you are available.

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less. Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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Celebrate Today With A Cake!

Heaven Hi!

Did you miss me yesterday? Well, I wanted to save this week’s post for Wednesday, October 14th because it is…

National Dessert Day!

If you are on a diet or have been watching your figure, make sure that you make today your splurge day. You can even find some free treats in some restaurants today:

Baker’s Square: Receive a free slice of pie with purchase of any menu entree 10:30 a.m. until close. Baker’s Square has many locations across the nation.

Chompie’s: National Dessert Day Big Apple Bargain. Buy 1 get 1 free for National Dessert Day, guests can buy a Danish, pastry or slice of cake and get one of equal or lesser value for free. Valid from Oct. 14 – 20. Chompie’s has several locations in Arizona.

Village Inn: Free slice of Pie with any dine-in purchase. Village Inn has many locations across the nation.

Noah’s New York Bagels: Celebrate National Dessert Day with a half dozen free brownies with $150 online catering purchase using this coupon. Noah’s New York Bagels has many locations across the nation.

(Source: International Business Times)

 

Of course, you can just as easily make your own desserts. Make it a family affair by having your loved ones gather in the kitchen and make one big dessert. If you don’t have a family but you do have a sweetie, why not go on a “Dessert Date”? Instead of going out to dinner and a movie, get together at your favorite Italian restaurant for a caramel macchiato and slice of tiramisu. Or better yet, just do some baking with your beau. There’s nothing sweeter than getting together and baking a chocolate layer cake.

Being successful isn’t just about going to work, kicking butt, and taking names. Being successful means that you also know when to kick back and have some fun. Celebrate some nonsense days. Splurge every once in a while. It will keep you sane and ensure happiness.

 

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less.  Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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Your Personal Development Plan for Success!

Heaven High and Happy Friday!

This Monday is Columbus Day! For most of you, this will be a regular weekend but for some of you fine folks, it will be a long weekend that you can spend as you wish. Unlike holidays like Thanksgiving or Memorial Day, a lot of Americans don’t have many plans or celebrations to attend this weekend. So how can you spend your Columbus Day weekend?

My suggestion is to either spend the weekend with your family or spend the weekend bettering yourself. Personal development is something that we all should be working on – whether you’re a student in college or a high-paid CEO of a multi-million dollar company. However, we don’t all spend an appropriate amount of time trying to make ourselves “better”.

Of course, the term better (or even successful) is subjective. Each of us will define each in a different way, depending on what you want to do with your life and what you want out of your life. We all have different goals and we all want different things. Here are just a few ways that you can work on personal development, no matter how you define “better” or “successful”.

#1) Read Your Weight In Books

Reading a little bit every day will help improve your brain. You don’t have to read just non-fiction books either. You can read any type of fiction that you like as well. The more diverse your choice of books, the more knowledge you will expose your brain to. I do suggest mixing it up though. Don’t know where to start? Pick up my book (Acting for Real: Be the Star in Your Life) or even a textbook to help you learn how to improve your public speaking or academic skills.

#2) Pick Up A Hobby That Is New To You

This one is incredibly broad. Learning something new will help your brain establish new neurological connections. Because of that, you’ll have more innovative and creative ideas for your personal and professional lives. You don’t have to pick up a hobby that has to do with your professional field either.

Pick up a new sport. Learn a new creative and artistic hobby. Take a class in cooking or dancing. Any of these things (and more) will help you stretch your thinking in different aspects. Yes, even sports can help your brain learn new things. The more active you are, the more oxygen your brain will be getting. Because of that, you’ll be more physically and mentally healthy.

#3) Create A Room For Yourself

Creating your own “me” room does a lot for your mind and your body. Everyone needs a space to call their own – just ask your teenagers. Just like they want their privacy, you want some for yourself too. We can’t always have an entire room for ourselves. I would urge you to create a small space for yourself though – even if it’s just a corner of a room.

Fill that space with things that inspire you and put up a vision board with images of your future goals and aspirations. This space will help set your mood and tone for your personal development journey. Don’t make it into such a big deal that you can’t spend any time in it though. The goal of this space is to inspire you and to have a space that you can relish being in.

#4) Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

We grow as people by stretching our minds and our bodies. If you are too comfortable, you won’t be able to expand your thoughts beyond that “comfort zone boundary”. Shake up your daily routine. Meet new people. Expose yourself to new ideas.

#5) Make Up Your Life List

Some people call it a bucket list: a list of things that you want to do before you kick the bucket. I call it the “Life List”: a list of goals that you want to accomplish in your life. Dig deep within yourself and pick out a handful of values that you want to expand upon – characteristics that you cherish and hold a high standard for: wisdom, love, learning, create, giving, etc.

After you have that list of values, add some items under each value that will aid you in exploring and expanding that value even more. For example, under “create” you can have:

  • Write a book
  • Write a love song for your spouse
  • Paint a mural
  • Learn how to bake the perfect soufflé

Just make sure that you want to do these tasks. That passion that you have for each task will fuel your mind and spirit and will aid you in exploring those characteristics that you cherish so much.

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less. Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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Success and Diligence for Your Professional and Personal Life

Heaven High and Happy Tuesday!

How was your weekend? Did you have a relaxing weekend or a busy, hectic one? How was your Monday?

Today I want to talk about something that most successful people have in common. Why? Because I want us all to be successful! While we all don’t have the same chances in life, we all have the potential to be great. It’s just that some of us have to work a little (or a lot) harder than other.

Don’t let any of that stop you from achieving greatness!

Today, I want to talk about DILIGENCE.

Successful people know that being diligent and hard-working will lead to success. They know certain truths and one of them is…

#1) Your Input Creates Your Output

If you put in the hard work, you will get good results. They also know that these results don’t come lightning fast…, or at least sometimes they do but most of the time, they don’t. Don’t get your hopes up by expecting results quickly. Instead, focus on working hard and improving upon yourself. The results will come.

#2) Do You Complain About Working?

Successful people know not to complain about having to work hard because they know that it comes with the territory. If you want to be successful, you have to put in the work and no amount of complaining will change that.

One of the things that goes along with this is the fact that staying positive is a great way to stay motivated for work. If you stay positive, you won’t be concentrating on how hard you have to work or how unpleasant it might be.

#3) Set Your Own Standards

Setting your own standards for excellence is an important thing to remember when you are working hard. We shouldn’t be comparing ourselves to others because – as I said before – we all come from different backgrounds and have different opportunities. Instead, set your own standards.

How hard do you want to work?

What goals do you want to reach for your productivity?

Where should you be this time next year?

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less. Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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Success and Your Mise En Place

Heaven High and Happy Thursday!

Today I wanted to play a short podcast for you. This one is from Alastair Stephens, a writer, a blogger, and podcaster. He had a storytelling and writing podcast called, “The Journeyman Writer.” A few days ago he posted one about Mise En Place. While his podcast might be geared toward writers, I think that most creatives can find some wisdom in his words. Check out the podcast here and have a great weekend!

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less. Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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Take Out These Words to Help Improve Your Success in Communication!

Heaven High and Happy Tuesday!

Today I want to talk to you about an aspect of communication: miscommunication.

Have you been in a situation where the person that you’re talking to took offense to what you were saying – even though your intentions were in the right place? Do you ever feel like you are often misquoted or misinterpreted in conversations? There are two big factors that should be taken into consideration when thinking about what can be done differently in these situations:

  1. Non-verbal cues and outside factors
  2. Lazy word choice

I would like to talk with you about the latter of those two: lazy word choice.

There are days where we don’t feel like talking with anyone, or perhaps even times when we shouldn’t talk to people: when we first get up in the morning, before we’ve had our morning cup of joe, right after we are frustrated about a situation, etc. During those times, we don’t necessarily think about what types of words or phrases we should choose.

In order to limit these types of encounters, it is imperative that we always be aware of the words that are coming out of our mouths. While we can’t be vigilant all the time, we may be able to lessen the damage by taking out certain words or phrases. Here are five examples of “words” that you should take out of every day use.

#1) ”Umm…”

This can be construed in many different ways. Most of the time, it is used as a filler – instead of “dead air”. It is also seen as a weakness. In order to show more confidence in yourself and what you are talking about, this “word” should be taken out of your regular repertoire.

#2) ”You look tired.”

This phrase implies that the person you are talking to isn’t looking his or her best. While you may mean it as an observation or a form of sympathy, it may only come out as insulting. Instead of “you look tired”, why not ask the person if they are okay or if they have something on their mind.

#3) ”Just”

Taking this word out of your vocabulary will strengthen your word choice and make your speech more confident – similar to taking out “um”.

#4) ”Always” and “Never”

The words “always” and “never” are absolutes. When you speak to someone in absolutes, they will often feel defensive. No one ever “always” or “never” does anything. There are exceptions to 99% of activities and actions that someone takes.

#5) ”Whatever you want”

You may be indifferent to the question that is being posed to you, but you should not respond with “whatever you want.” If someone asks you for your opinion, then your words matter to them. Don’t dismiss that. It is a sign of respect to be considered in this matter anyway. Even if you are indifferent to the question, you should offer up a couple of suggestions.

For example (a very common example), perhaps Bob and Sally are hungry for dinner. If Bob asks Sally what she wants to eat, she could reply with “whatever you want” but that won’t help solve their problem.

Bob: What do you want for dinner?
Sally: I don’t have a craving for anything in particular. However, I know that I’m not really feeling like Mexican or Italian tonight.

Another option could be…

Bob: What do you want for dinner?
Sally: I don’t feel strongly about anything in particular. A couple options that are close are…

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less. Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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Balance Equals Success

Heaven High and Happy Thursday!

Today I wanted to talk to you about Balance. Balance is how you make sure that your life stays healthy and happy. A good way to observe your sense of balance (or imbalance) is by studying your habitual behavior. Is your addictive personality kicking in through the force of your habits? There are many different options out there and one of them is the right one for you. Or you may find that you work best when you combine two different techniques.

It may sound like a daunting task to find a good time management system but that merely depends on how you look at it. Picture it as a fun task that you can do in your spare time. If you dread something, it will seem even more unpleasant than you originally perceived it to be and you won’t want to do it.

Time management can fall into two basic categories: digital reminders and old-fashioned pen and paper. Digital reminders can be set on your computer (personal and/or work) and can sync to your portable devices. With the technological advances nowadays, there is no reason why anyone would forget a task or double-book meetings.

If you are like me, you feel that the old-school method of desk calendars and pen-and-paper planners work best for you. I have a PC that syncs with my phone and tablet. I can use a Google Calendar to remind me of even the simplest task. However, I still prefer to use the ancient, tried-and-true method of hard copy planners.

As an example, let me tell you about my time management system.
Every Sunday, I take a half an hour (upwards to an hour depending on what time it is) in the morning to schedule the following workweek. I take this time to:

  •  Write in appointments and deadlines on my calendar,
  •  Fill in my personal and professional task list,
  • Write down what I am currently doing for personal improvement for the week (normally that means, what book I am reading)
  • Plan some personal time (hobbies, errands, and date nights with my significant other)

I also color-coordinate these meetings and tasks in my planner so that I can see (at a glance) just how balanced my life is. I use colored pencils so that I can erase them and so the colors won’t bleed through the pages.

Work-related time is colored in blue. Time dedicated to personal improvement is in purple. Other personal time (hobbies, date nights, and other fun things) are colored in pink. Yellow is for errands. Green is for everything else. Looking at my calendar, I make sure that every color shows up every week.

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less. Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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Achieving Success with Mental Clarity

Heaven High and Happy Tuesday!

Today I want to talk to you about mental clarity and how you can obtain it. There are many things that you can do to boost your mental clarity. What do I mean when I say “mental clarity”? By “mental clarity” I mean that your brain is functioning well, smoothly, and at its best.

Do you ever get that “fuzzy” feeling? I do not mean that fuzzy feeling where you have not shaved in a few weeks. I mean that “brain-fuzzy” feeling where you cannot concentrate on anything and you feel kind of “out of it”. If you are feeling this way, then you don’t have good mental clarity.

In order to keep your brain in tip-top shape, make sure that you are doing the things listed below.

Get some sleep! Sleep is the time when your brain and body recharges. While our minds do not fully disengage when we “sack out” for the night, it does calm down a bit. It is no longer taking in information, now it is time to process that information unconsciously.

Drink plenty of water. Water is essential for keeping your brain (and body) hydrated. Did you know that your brain is nearly 80% water? If you do not keep your brain properly hydrated, parts of your brain could suffer damage and you could begin to hallucinate. That is one of the symptoms of extreme dehydration. Hopefully none of you are at that stage. You should do yourself (and your brain) a favor and drink some water. While there is no magic number for how much water you should drink, there is a formula.

For every 100 pounds that you weigh, you should drink about 50 ounces of water each day. You will need to drink half of your body weight. If you are doing some extreme exercising or keeping active, you will want to tack on extra water. If you are drinking caffeinated beverages (like coffee), then you should drink two cups of water for ever cup of caffeine.

Keep your mind active. You have to keep learning new things and keeping your brain active. Look at reading and learning new things like exercise for your brain. If you do not exercise, your muscles become flabby and do not work as well, right? Well, if you do not exercise your brain, it will not work as well either.

Give it a rest every day. I am not talking about sleep either. I am talking about reflection. Take about fifteen minutes to half an hour each day (preferably at the end of your day) to sit back and reflect on all of the events that just passed. This is a way for your brain to consciously sift through all of that information. It is good for you and it is good for your brain.

Give it the right vitamins. The best vitamins for your brain are E, B-12, folate, B6, and magnesium. Right now, all of those consonants and numbers may just sound like we are playing a game of “Bingo” or “Battleship”, right. Well, let me help you put it in perspective.

You can find vitamin E in things like sunflower oil, whole grain flour, green leafy veggies, and almonds. You can find B 12 in meats like beef, pork, and fish (which can be worrisome for vegetarians). You can get folate from beans, dark leafy veggies, lentils, and fruits. B6 comes from bell peppers, dark leafy greens (like kale and mustard greens), garlic, and tuna. You can get magnesium from nuts, seeds, and dark leafy greens too. Are you seeing a pattern? Eat more kale and veggies, their good for your brain.

Find out how you can communicate more effectively, create more empowering relationships at work and at home and build more confidence in your talents and abilities in 7 minutes or less. Click here to take the FREE FACTs Personality Detector Quiz

Well, until next time! B BOP!

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